Clancy makes quite clear that what she means by "noncoercive" is that the encounter did not involve physical coercion, as in threat with a weapon or as in forcible rape, but rather involved an irresistible process of manipulation. In no way does she deny the emotional violence. On the contrary, she understands that this emotional violence is profoundly traumatic inasmuch as it induces the victim to bear the entire burden of blame and shame, alone and in silence, and inasmuch as it induces the victim to afford paralyzed compliance, confidentiality, even convenient self-obliteration afterwards, to future abusers who can smell that vulnerability a mile away and do not hesitate to exploit it.
What she rejects is the prevailing trauma model, product of a simplistic and blunted, black-and-white, all-or-nothing mentality, whereby the media and the hoi polloi make egregiously erroneous reference to priests "raping" their child victims; whereby victims who later allege abuse but admit compliance are discredited and dehumanized yet again; and whereby many in the helping professions discount emotional damage that isn't inflicted in the course of physical violence.
Thomas Doyle, a Roman Catholic priest well known for his rigorously conducted investigations and documentation of sexual abuse of youth by incurably narcissistic clergy and the methods by which the abuse was proactively enabled for decades by church hierarchy, has also explored in depth the psychological and spiritual dimensions of the damage inflicted upon children and vulnerable adults by persons of trust. This latter important work, however, tends to be ignored or damned with faint praise.
Clancy points out that relatively few cases of child sexual abuse are physically violent assaults. Likewise, only a few "noncoercive" sexually abusive persons of trust are celibate priests and only some of those are homosexual. The great majority of child sexual abusers are parents--ordinary, heterosexual, married, respectable-looking, well-liked parents, but only a tiny minority of those are ever outed, much less prosecuted. This is the big cover-up for which we are unprepared as yet to take the heat. In the meantime, it is precisely for this reason that when long-silenced victims finally cry out in despair--when they start to spill the beans, in other words --they encounter a massive, murderously crushing wall of denial on every societal front.
As do their advocates, who are denounced first when they speak truth to power in the academy and then again when they get published.